The result of another long layover was the opportunity to allow my mind to play with some of my usual random thoughts. I reflected back to the post I wrote months ago on the topic of "Being Beautiful." One observation I've been making lately is that people who are considered above average in attractiveness seem to also be well dressed. Most of the population tends to wear comfortable attire when traveling. There's a lot of sitting around waiting to board, the seats on the plane aren't that comfortable. The entire ordeal might take up an entire day. It makes complete sense that we generally reach for comfy clothing and not pay much attention to our overall appearance.
But then there are those, who show appear slightly out of place. They're wearing tailored stylish clothing and their hair is perfectly groomed, skin flawless and makeup is perfected. The way they stand out the most is by how they dress. So I stood there, at a charging station, and watched to see if my theory held true. Countless people walked by before I noticed a few well dressed people...again, the same people who stood out were those who could be deemed attractive by society's standards.
Finally, I said to myself. "Instead of speculating, why not ask them why they took the time to "overdress." Then I was like "that's a stupid question to ask a random stranger." Then I was like "#fearlessfriday you gotta do it!" I grabbed my phone and headed towards my gate completely neglecting the fact that I could have talked to the model guy standing two feet from me. Part of me hoped that my plane would be boarding, giving me an excuse not to take on the challenge. Then, just before I arrived at the gate, I saw the girl who was in all black, sitting next to a wall. Without thinking I walked straight to her so I could get some answers.
As I sat next to her, I got a closer look. She was probably in her mid-twenties and of Indian descent. Her jet black hair was perfectly styled. Her winged eyeliner made her large eyes pop. Her lipstick was the soft shade of pink that perfectly matched her skin tone and manicured nails. Pretty much everything about her was flawless. After introducing myself and letting her know that I would be asking her an awkward question, she smiled and said "sure, ask me whatever you want!"
"What made you dress up this way to come to an airport?" "As part of my business, I plan million dollar weddings, I always dress up because I never know when I need to present myself for a new opportunity." Then she went on to say that she didn't always carry herself this way. But after a difficult time in her life, she renewed her faith in God, got baptized and got reconnected with herself. She went on to share how grateful she was for each day and that she considered dressing well as "a celebration of life!" "In the mornings" she told me, "I answer to God and then I answer to myself. It's my job to love me and this is how I demonstrate my love for myself."
Then she went to describe the benefits of dressing your best. "Back, when I didn't take care of myself physically, nothing exceptional really happened in my life. But once I started to care about my physical appearance, my business skyrocketed!" Now I have an office in New York and I get to travel to meet new clients......I believe that if you dress in a basic way, you will lead a basic life."
After hearing that statement, I reflected back to a couple years ago, during my vacation, when I invested lots of dedicated time to make sure everything about my appearance was as close to perfect as possible. Let me tell you my friends, things seemed to magically change around me. My confidence skyrocketed, people interacted with differently...my thoughts were different....everything changed. Everything. But then I went back to work, and my old habits, again. The girl at the airport also mentioned that a different kind of energy is projected out to others, when you look your best, that isn't the same on an average day. I believe that energy does exist and is very powerful. I also believe that this energy, projected day after day will compound bringing new people and experiences into your life that might not have happened if you present yourself differently. Even Eddie Mora experienced this for himself after his physical transformation.
Before leaving I asked, "if you didn't have to go to do any business on your trip would you have dressed down?" She looked me straight in the eye and apologetically answered "no." Her response led me to believe in how important this ritual is to life. To her, this is an act of self love and self love must happen every. single . day.
I totally loved chatting with this person who was both beautiful on inside and out. I would love to interview a few other people and get some different perspectives on this topic.
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